I've been keeping fish for many, many years and I have learned a few hard lessons as well as a number of slightly less painful ones. I have three basic rules which have helped me to cope with the sometimes steep learning curve one can encounter in our hobby. The first rule of fish keeping is :
* Fish die and the second rule, like unto the first is:
* Big fish eat little fish, and the third, like unto the first two is:
* Many, many fish are aggressive toward their own kind and others.
If I find I am missing fish, I refer immediately to stu's three rules of fish keeping.
There are, of course, many corollaries and addenda.
- Do NOT anthropomorphize your fish. They are wonderful creatures but they are fish.
- Water changes can be very beneficial.
- Testing the water can be instructive.
- Disease happens. Some, like ich, are easily curable and some are not.
- The incidence of disease can be mitigated somewhat by proper quarantine methods.
- Know which fish BEFORE you purchase.
- Knowing which fish includes but is not limited to: maximum size, diet, habits, aggression, proper water parameters, et cetera ad nauseum.
- Do NOT EVER release your unwanted fish into the wild. (carp, walking catfish, snakeheads, cichlids, birds, lizards, and pythons in Florida, disease, hybrids... need I say more?) Trade 'em, sell 'em, euthanize 'em but NEVER, EVER release them into the wild. It is not more "humane" to release them in to the wild.
This is hardly a complete list but it might be a way to somewhat lessen a bit of the heartbreak I have read in this thread. I would be happy to hear others' inputs in this matter. I apologize if this is viewed as a thread hijack. I needed to express myself.
stu